College Chaos With Bebe

This episode takes the Genz through their days in college but on this episode they are joined by Jon's Niece Bebe who is attending a University in the Upper midwest. Bebe is studying Architecture and she will tell a story that should scare most students from attending college, but Bebe managed to get through the incident! join us as we  discuss a very harrowing college experience along with Jon's experience as he bunks with Elmer fud from Green acres in his experience and Jessica on college apartment experience!

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Welcome to Jen Is Us Podcast, where we dive into the dynamic world generational conversation with your host, John, the baby boomer, along with Jessica, the Millennial, and Joey, the Gen Z. Welcome, welcome. This is Jen Is Us. Today we actually have a special guest.

SPEAKER_05 0:17

I'm BB, the Gen Zer, I guess.

SPEAKER_03 0:19

Yeah, she's taking the place of Joe and for today. And uh I'm Jessica and I'm back. Yeah, the Millennial.

SPEAKER_01 0:26

The Millennial. She's been here since the beginning. Joey's been off and he's been doing his thing. Uh today I'm not on camera.

SPEAKER_03 0:33

Hey, we could put you on camera. I can get my phone.

SPEAKER_01 0:36

That's okay. We're we're good. I'll I'll be the producer today and just uh talk from behind the board. So today, what uh what we're gonna talk about today.

SPEAKER_03 0:45

Sure. I um would love to. So Bibi is my cousin. So um, you know, we're actually all related here, unlike when Joey's here and he's uh uh or Julia, but uh Bibi is uh my dad's sister's daughter, and you're in your 20s. Yes, you're currently in school, you're going to uh college. We won't say where, but um it's somewhere north. Yeah. Are you is this your what year is this for you?

SPEAKER_05 1:17

So this is technically my senior year, but my program is five years at the university. Do you get a master's with it or no? So it doesn't so masters are not considered usable anymore for this career. I can go for a master's, but it's only um one year, and you just basically get an extra ching on your payroll when you apply for a job, and then you can go in for teaching.

SPEAKER_01 1:45

Um what what what is your specific area of study?

SPEAKER_05 1:50

So it would be a bachelor's in architecture. Okay, so you can't instead of a bachelor's in science, where you could like branch off and go into bachelor's of business. Yeah, where that's where it gets a little iffy with the other sciences.

SPEAKER_03 2:08

So you're not it's not cost effective for you to stay and get a master's, basically.

SPEAKER_05 2:15

Because it's just it really isn't. However, in the long run, with not everyone in the United States doing it, I just might do it because it's just one extra year. Yeah. So um, in terms of cost in the long run, I might just do it because it's cheaper that way. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 2:37

Yeah. I would just well, for me, I would just do it and get it over with. And then, you know, you can say you at least had it done and you don't have to go back, but at the same time, maybe you'll find a job that will pay for it.

SPEAKER_05 2:53

Yeah, see, that's the funny thing is that I've heard mixed stories of people getting hired and then paying for it, and then mixed stories of their because it's not used anymore, they won't pay for it. Yeah. Yeah. It just where everything's going now, it's like they're seeing, you know, less education is you know, a good is is fine because you know the experience that they're wanting to, yeah. Experience is better than education now, apparently.

SPEAKER_03 3:26

You know. Well, I I think I believe that, to be honest. I mean, I think people are looking at education costing more money, and people just wanna start working and making money rather than paying. Um, but you're you went away, but it's not like you're not too far from home. So you're able to come home pretty much whenever you want. And um, so how does that like the ability to come home so often, how does that affect like your college life? Like, are you still able to like go out and do stuff, or is it different because you're so close to home? Your mom like comes and sees you too often, maybe or did you leave leave home to get away from?

SPEAKER_05 4:16

Um it depends on who you're asking and who's asking me. Um, I wanted to get away because I've seen the movies.

SPEAKER_01 4:26

Um what movies are those?

SPEAKER_05 4:28

You know, um, oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_03 4:35

Uh the house bunny.

SPEAKER_01 4:39

The house bunny. There you go.

SPEAKER_03 4:41

These are millennial movies. I don't even think she knows what things are.

SPEAKER_04 4:44

You know what's so funny? I was trying to think in my head, like, what millennial movies can I say so I don't sound too young.

SPEAKER_05 4:49

Um oh my gosh, what movies have I seen about college? I don't know. I'm gonna say high school musical, but like, you know, like movies where you high school musical.

SPEAKER_03 4:58

Well, is it millennial? No.

SPEAKER_05 5:01

No? It's like Gen Z. Well, well, okay. It's in between-ish. I wouldn't even call myself a Gen Zer because you are a Gen Zer. No, but they're saying that people who were born between the age of 2000, or so like the last year millennial, and the first year of Gen Z, which is like 2002, 2003, which I was born in 2003, would be um they could identify as a millennial.

SPEAKER_03 5:32

No, false. False. You never owned a flip phone, a motor roller razor. I mean, my mom had one, and that was the first one.

SPEAKER_05 5:42

Yeah, but that was the first one I got to use like in first grade when I wanted to play on a phone. Doesn't count.

SPEAKER_01 5:50

Hey, maybe do you know what that blue thing is in front of you that's on the table? Yeah, isn't it a phone? No, just do you know what that is?

SPEAKER_03 6:01

Yeah, I know from the last time. It's a radio.

SPEAKER_01 6:03

Yeah, it's a radio. Yeah, it's from the like the 1970s, late 70s to early 80s.

SPEAKER_03 6:08

It's also a weird murder weapon.

SPEAKER_01 6:12

Yeah, I mean, there's a lot of things that Gen Z is like public phones.

SPEAKER_03 6:17

Yeah, true. You've never used a payphone, had never used a payphone, right?

SPEAKER_05 6:21

Really? Yeah, the my high school had a payphone.

SPEAKER_03 6:24

Okay, that doesn't count, they just didn't take it out of your school, right?

SPEAKER_01 6:29

And maybe it was a museum piece, yeah. It was like uh like, hey, everybody, this is a museum piece, so we're gonna put it in the school.

SPEAKER_03 6:37

Sure, it's a public phone, it's an art exhibition, right?

SPEAKER_01 6:42

Sure. But yeah. So, okay, so school college compared to what we went through, like, okay, I'm a boomer, obviously. Yeah, I went to two different schools. I went to Northern Illinois University and I went to Columbia College. I got my associates in broadcasting or my bachelor's degree in communications at Columbia. But that was not a boarding school, that was driving downtown every day. Yeah, I did go to NIU for about six months because well, Beatrice, my sister who passed away, she went longer. She stayed there for a couple years, whatever. Um, and then I think she transferred to a different school, but she lived at the dorm. And I remember, you know, when it was time for her to go there, um, we packed her up and we put her in the dorm and all that. So I had a different experience. I will I didn't want to go there and come back. So I decided, okay, you know what? I'm gonna look at the bulletin board and see if there's like rooms for rent or something like that. So that's so then I saw I saw one on the bulletin board. Um, stay for free. All you need to do is help out around the the farm. Yeah. So so I went and I'm like, okay, might as well. I I interviewed with uh the guy here, he was uh uh it was a couple with seven kids.

SPEAKER_03 8:17

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 8:18

All of them were girls. Uh okay, so like the first night or first day we I got there, I had a uh a uh luggage bag with clothes and stuff like that. So I'm like, okay, I'll get my own room. I've got seven girls. They were all fairly all right, they weren't you know the hottest things, but it was a farm.

SPEAKER_05 8:39

This episode on uh Disney Plus special.

SPEAKER_01 8:45

It was a farm, it was a full functioning farm in Decalanoid. Uh pigs, chickens, cows, corn. It was the full farm. Is he your guy that went to jail? No, but it could have been closed.

SPEAKER_03 8:59

Well, what the hell did you think? I mean, I understand. I've never thought of you as a farm person.

SPEAKER_01 9:04

I wasn't, but at that point I was desperate. I wanted to leave home and I wanted to, you know, uh do my own thing. The only problem is when I got there, I'm like, okay, so where's my where do I sleep? Guess where I slept?

SPEAKER_03 9:18

In the barn.

SPEAKER_01 9:19

No, next to the dude. What? Yeah. With the father? With the father.

SPEAKER_04 9:25

It was like a I did see this on Inside Edition.

SPEAKER_01 9:31

And I'm like, no freaking way. I'm like, I don't get my own room. I'm like, not yet, you know. So I'm like, okay, this is too weird. Oh. So we get up like at four in the morning. I'm out there uh feeding chickens and milking cows or trying to learn how to milk a cow. And I'm like, I'm not gonna be able to do this. I don't care if there's seven girls and they're all, you know, within the ages of 15 and 20. I'm like, I can't do this. I know, right? So I'm like, I told the guy, I can't do this. I'm sorry. So I ended up driving back and forth for about six months, and that was it. So then after that, I uh decided, okay, I want to go into uh communication. So I applied at Columbia and uh I got I got accepted. So I went to school there. So my experience is a little different from the normal person, and you could probably make a movie out. You could probably make a movie out of this.

SPEAKER_05 10:30

You need to look up these people. I swear I've seen them on TV or something.

SPEAKER_03 10:35

Yeah, it's called Prime Talk. TikTok, there's a whole lot 2020. It's findyourfarmer.com. Right. Uh yeah, no, I went to uh DePa for a trimester right out of uh high school and um so fun. So uh it was such a cool experience. We moved, um I stayed in a dorm, and then you know, we couldn't afford it. So then I went to see um a local community college for two and a half years, went to uh and got my associates, and then I went to NIU for two years. The first year I stayed on campus in a dorm, but it it it it almost felt like I was commuting because I still worked back here. And so like I would still be driving almost every weekend to work. Yeah, and it just uh it wasn't typical. And then in December, my first year at NAU, I started dating my now husband, and so then that was a little different because it wasn't like in the dorms I was partying with all the other freshmen. I was already a junior and I was over 21, so it was just a very different dynamic. And then um the second year I commuted my first half of the of my senior year. And uh so that was that was tough. I mean, commuting back and forth to decal was was a little tough. But what was nice is my well, my boyfriend at the time, my now husband, lived in Geneva, and so it was kind of halfway there. So I could stay at his house if I, you know, was tired, but I decided I needed to I I couldn't keep doing it. And my school schedule couldn't allow because I was taking five classes, and so and I because I wanted to finish, I wanted to get my bachelor's, and so I went um and found an apartment that was in a house, kind of like well no, yours is an actual like yours.

SPEAKER_01 12:50

Yours was a house.

SPEAKER_03 12:52

Yeah, yours was a mine was a house and it was a um yours was like individual rooms, wasn't it? It was. Yeah. So it was like you had a key to the front and it was a shared kitchen space. Shit there's two no, there was yeah, there's two bathrooms upstairs, um, and then like a power room and the on my floor, and then each individual bedroom had its own key. Oh god. So like I didn't even know, I never even met the people who like lived up in upstairs.

SPEAKER_01 13:20

So you didn't you didn't share it with uh it was your own. It was my own. Oh wow, I I don't remember that.

SPEAKER_03 13:26

Yeah, for only like I mean it was only half of the year of school.

SPEAKER_01 13:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 13:32

So so it was like from I don't know, like January to May. It was really short. And um yeah, and then that was it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 13:43

No, like my I will say, like, my first experience away from home, like the first year in the dorm. Um a little rough, poor me was rough. Like um I'm actually still known for that story, uh, unfortunately, still in school because of how um rough it was. And um that's why, funny enough, people in my major still know me as that. That's why when I got a job on campus, um, no one knew me as that. That's why I'm more friends with people off not in my major, and I'm more um how people knew me like in high school, like, you know, you join everything, you know everybody, you know, blah, blah, blah. You talk to everybody, you're so outgoing, blah, blah, blah. Um, where people in architecture, they know me as, oh, you're so quiet. You know, you don't do everything.

SPEAKER_01 14:38

You don't erupted school and class and okay, I'm the class clown.

SPEAKER_05 14:44

Yeah, they know me as like this quiet person that doesn't really talk, yeah, nothing.

SPEAKER_03 14:49

So you think that's because you take your like schooling seriously, and then your other stuff is where you have the fun.

SPEAKER_05 14:56

And that is true, and I think that's what they know me more now. And I think I took my junior year as a way of like really um branching off. And luckily enough, um, someone who I went to middle school uh was in all of my classes this semester, and so he knew me as you know, someone from middle school, high school now, and was like, why does everyone think that you're this quiet person? I know you were this loud, yeah, you know, who does everything. Um so he told everyone this, and then you know, he knew my friends, and um, now everyone knows me as everything, and I'm like, yeah, that I guess this is a good thing.

SPEAKER_03 15:39

And um, they don't see you at school as being loud, don't they see you out partying downtown? And are you a partier? And she's in a sorority.

SPEAKER_01 15:50

I mean, I mean, but there's different types of sororities. There's like the alpha betas, the alpha poopas, the the Greek uh Kappa Kappa Kappa.

SPEAKER_05 16:01

My sorority is um, I'll give crowd to my sorority. My sorority is the most uh inclusive, the most body positive one um I believe there is out there, because um that's why I chose mine, and that's why I preach it everywhere. Um, obviously I won't say which one it is, but um that's why I chose mine.

SPEAKER_01 16:25

By inclusive, what do you mean? Because we you know what we're we live in a completely different time. I mean, when I was going to school, there was nothing like that. I mean, and and Jess, when you were going to school, yeah, it might have been just been starting.

SPEAKER_03 16:40

Yeah, I mean, but you when I was in the college, I mean you heard all of those like horror stories of like sororities who would make their um rec, what do they call recruits, the rush during rush stage? Yeah, they would put um their rushes out on the auditorium stage and and just their underwear, and then have the um there was a story where they had the fraternities sit in the auditorium and with permanent markers, and they would just go up to all the girls and circle where they could improve their body on their body.

SPEAKER_01 17:16

No way, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 17:17

I heard that story when I was in college.

SPEAKER_01 17:19

Oh, but it wasn't at your school.

SPEAKER_03 17:21

I can't remember, I don't think so. Oh, geez. I don't know. It was at a I think it was at a state school, like one of the state schools.

SPEAKER_01 17:28

State schools.

unknown 17:29

Wow.

SPEAKER_05 17:30

Yeah, and the thing is that um it's like horrible hazing. Yeah, that's yeah, yeah, that's the word that like it it's banned at all schools and especially mine and you know.

SPEAKER_01 17:41

Well, not all of them, because you you still hear stories of hazing and and the thing is in the bot of well, in the laws of sword and fraternity.

SPEAKER_05 17:50

The bylaws and stuff like that, yeah. They're it's scrubbed you can't be it's you know, but there's secrets everywhere, right? There's everything they do on the DL or whatever. However, what I know with mine, what I know, like what I've done, ours has never, and um, and that's all I can say.

SPEAKER_03 18:14

But yeah, um so if you were like spanking each other on the ass with like paddles, you could be for fun, right? Got it.

SPEAKER_01 18:24

All right, girls, let's all get together and spank each other.

SPEAKER_03 18:26

Yes, let's have a pillow fight.

SPEAKER_01 18:29

Um yeah, okay. Okay, we're gonna have a pillow fight, but this time without tops. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 18:34

Can you explain something to me? Um, so uh it was a couple years ago, I feel like, or maybe it was last year, something on TikTok started coming up, a trending with the sororities where they do these really like embarrassingly good dance, like uh the rush rush talk. Yes.

SPEAKER_05 18:54

Um, so at the beginning of every semester, uh, more of the beginning of the year, it's um the freshmen who come into college, it's really more down south, right? They go their whole process is way, way more significant than someone like my school who only has a smaller amount of uh sorority um in terms of like panelinic or their council, right? So they go in two weeks before their school starts, or four weeks, maybe maybe like a month. Let's just say a month, for example. Like who? The freshman women or who identify as a woman. Because you're uh John, you said uh inclusivity. So um I'm not gonna lie, I know a lot about this just because of all the things I've read. So inclusivity in sorority life is anyone who identifies as a woman. So in our sorority, in mine specifically, I can say this because um this is what we preach. Anyone who identifies as a woman or who um may even if they um go as they then pronouns, they can still join our sorority, you know? And that doesn't matter to me. Yeah, and my whole um thing is like oh it's hurting me, you know? Right. So do whatever you want, you know? Yeah. And uh that's what I love about mine. It you meet so many people and it's so beautiful. Um, and do you have to turn people away? Well, that's like a bigger like thing that I really don't know anything about because that's like not my end. Oh, okay. Um I really don't know much about it. Um, but like our educator is um what's it called? Um identifies as the LGBQ plus uh community. But on the larger end of the the South, what they do is that they bring in all the freshmen women in early and they basically go two weeks of looking at all like 20, I think 24 different sororities go into each of the houses, basically looking at which one they like, and then each day one is dropping them, one is wanting them, and blah blah blah. And if they get chosen, um what's it called? They get to go to that house and one doesn't, they basically just stay on campus for two weeks before school starts.

SPEAKER_01 21:45

So it's it's sort of like a an audition, it's like a sorority audit. Because I never had to go through that because I went to um you know, Green Acres, and uh then I also and then when I went to Columbia, there was no such thing because it's uh

SPEAKER_03 22:01

Yeah, it's a day school. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 22:02

Yeah, there's no unless you stay at one of the apartments or whatever, but you're not gonna, you know, I'm I wasn't gonna stay at uh you know downtown.

SPEAKER_03 22:10

Yeah, that was like what DePaul, like DePaul was because it's in the city, they had I think they have like frats, but they it wasn't like um like houses.

SPEAKER_05 22:21

Yeah, some of the houses and non-houses are good thing and bad things, but sometimes um you just live with who you live with. Sometimes you can just deem that as a house. Right.

SPEAKER_03 22:34

Yeah, like I know at NIU they had a whole uh sorority fraternity row and a lot of like fights erupted. And um and I know at NIU when I was going there, there were so many stories about shootings and like just total like violence, and I'm like, this is we're in like farmland, like what is going on?

SPEAKER_01 22:58

You thought that the only thing you're gonna see is like aliens landing out.

SPEAKER_03 23:02

Pretty much like making like um what are those called? The circles?

SPEAKER_01 23:05

Oh yeah, the crop circles.

SPEAKER_05 23:07

Yeah, the crop circles, yeah. But like I should get little up in there.

SPEAKER_03 23:11

Dude, the first very first um month I was there. So just starting out my in my dorm. The very first month, um, a girl from Naperville goes missing. She's a freshman at NAU. She goes missing, no one can find her. I'm not fucking kidding. Yeah. So she goes missing, everyone's looking for her. So they end up tracing it back. So she was an art student, and she ended up getting up early and like walking to this like forest area off a little off campus and um to paint or draw or something. And that was the last time anyone had seen her. And so, you know, they they kept looking for her, they kept looking for her, and um, they ended up finding charred remains in a I swear to god, yeah. Very like month or two, the first month or two, I was there. And so like the whole campus was on alert. They found her remains, they didn't know who did it. Yeah, um, and she's from Naperville.

SPEAKER_01 24:20

Like I think you know what I guess, I think she's buried at Ascension. Probably because there's a there's um uh a tomb that has an uh NIU and it's got a picture of a girl in her, and it's uh it's and it it it appeared, I think, when you went to school.

SPEAKER_03 24:40

Well, probably probably her.

SPEAKER_01 24:45

What's her first name?

SPEAKER_03 24:50

Maybe I don't remember her name. Um, but yeah, it was very tragic, and um the whole camp, like the whole campus was on high alert, obviously, and like me being um a female, it was just scary.

SPEAKER_01 25:05

Um I think anytime, yeah, you hear a story, especially like a female story, unfortunately.

SPEAKER_03 25:13

I know. Yeah, we have it rough, but yeah, so um they ended up finding the guy. I don't there's stuff. Oh, they did find a guy? They did, yeah. So I don't know how they found him. He was a local. He was a decal local dude. And um they finally arrested him. He was trying to flee and go um to the Mexican border, and they did catch him.

SPEAKER_00 25:39

Oh, they did?

SPEAKER_03 25:40

And they they did sentence him, but the thing was, um, there are people who are from DeCal. Like I had some friends that were kind of local, you know. And they all think that he didn't do it. Really? Somebody else did it, and then you think that they were probably just trying to they were trying to close it up because of how because first of all, it's NIU.

SPEAKER_01 26:02

Well, I mean, was there enough evidence to say, okay, this guy did it, or was it circumstantial like sometimes, I guess.

SPEAKER_03 26:09

I don't know. I mean, he was convicted. Oh, he was he was convicted, and um but uh gosh, what was her name? Yeah, I'm gonna have to look it up now. It was scary, but that was the very first freaking month I started at NAM.

SPEAKER_05 26:25

Like Well, I feel like every time someone every time we start college, or like any of us start college, um what's it called? You hear all the horror stories. So like my first time in the dorm, everything that happened, it was like um, well, one I had the bad roommate personally. So that happened to me.

SPEAKER_01 26:47

You know, I everybody's got stories, you know, like uh when I was going to school, uh now this is not college, this is when I was in grade school, I was in boarding school in military school in Indiana. There was some pretty bad things that happened out there, you know. Um, there's a there's a I think I told the story on a different show, but I was at uh in the infirmary, infirmary, and um my roommate was from Mexico, barely spoke English. So um he was afraid that this other kid who was already like maybe six years older than everybody else. But he was 20, and we were like 14 or yeah, 14 years old. So he was kind of scared because he kept hitting on him. And so he was scared, and so I told him, you know, what here's a cap cut. If if the guy comes in or whatever, just shoot it out. People hear you. And I mean, this is a I'm a 14-year-old, I didn't know any better, but I knew that hey, if somebody does something, you know, this is the way to do it. So then, sure enough, I'm at the infirmary. This kid, I still remember his name is Mark. Mark Ball. Um, and he was from Kentucky, and so um he was going up the the my he was on the uh top uh bunk and he was crawling up the bunk bed, right? Yeah, and so the kid's name is Fernando. He's he heard him and he saw his head, I guess. This is the way Fernando explained it to me. He saw the the kid um peering up through the through the the bed coming up, the the post or whatever. He took the gun out of his pillow and he shot and woke everybody up. He got in trouble. Um, his parents had a lot of money, that's why he was there at 20 years old, and so he had flunked like four times.

SPEAKER_05 28:32

Oh my lord.

SPEAKER_01 28:33

Right. I mean, he's from Kentucky. Come on. Yeah, so I mean, so anyway, so they uh I think they suspended him. He eventually got kicked out because he was you know doing things to little boys and stuff like that. So they finally caught him and that was it. But that was the the the I think the most traumatic thing that happened. I mean, there was a couple of other things, you know, me smoking cigars in the um the uh the father's um directory or whatever. We got into a stash of cigars and wine, and uh yeah, so I got in trouble for that, but I got in trouble for that. So, but going back to you, Bebe, what was the most traumatic thing that happened to you without you know, maybe getting emotional or anything like that? I mean, if you can, you know, talk about it for the audience.

SPEAKER_03 29:24

Sorry, one second. Tony Keller. Antoinette Tony Keller. It is her, Tony Keller. I think she's from playing field.

SPEAKER_01 29:30

I think it's Antonette.

SPEAKER_03 29:32

Yeah, picture? Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 29:34

Oh man, if I see that picture, I think it's gonna creep me out.

SPEAKER_05 29:37

Oh, there's a picture of her like body?

SPEAKER_01 29:39

No, not oh no. She was I think she said she was 18. She was charter, right?

SPEAKER_02 29:45

Yes. Oh that's it. Oops.

SPEAKER_00 29:49

I don't know, okay.

SPEAKER_01 29:50

No. All I see is like the the picture on the tune. And it does, I mean it kind of looks like her, but I don't know. I'd have to yeah. Is there another picture of her?

SPEAKER_05 30:01

Oh, because that's the one we always think is the one in that's the same cemetery. Right, right. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 30:07

She's uh it might it might be wrong. I might be wrong. It might not be her, but you know, well, every time uh when you go into Ascension, it's on the left side and it's up and you see a picture of it. Yeah, and it sort of looks like her, kind of does. I think it might be from NIU because it's got like NIU stuff on it.

SPEAKER_05 30:24

Oh, that might be, yeah. So I remember my mom telling me about some stuff like that.

SPEAKER_01 30:29

Right, right, right, right, right. So, okay, so Vivi, uh of all my education? No, no, no, no. Just that one that you said that was uh that you had a roommate that was Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_05 30:40

I guess um now this is your college, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:42

This is your when you first got in there, right?

SPEAKER_05 30:44

Yeah, so uh um, yeah, so my first college roommate, um, it was a random, right?

SPEAKER_01 30:53

Yeah, they pick your roommates and that's it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 30:56

Yeah. So I had reached out to funny enough, I had reached out to her the same weekend, Jessica. We went to the cabin for your birthday. Oh, right. Yeah. And she had messaged me saying she was not going to school because her parents kicked her out of it, or it um expelled her or whatever, unenrolled her. But then two seconds later, she um said, Oh, you know, I'm 18, they can't unenrolled me because I'm an adult. And I was like, Okay. So I guess I should have gotten, you know, a cleared of this already. Red flag. Yeah, red flag. Red flag alert, yeah. Yeah. Um, so, anyways, um, we just started talking, blah, blah, blah. Then um the first day comes around and uh we move in. I I'm the first one there, start unpacking. She rolls in, and everything seems nice, normal. She seems like a very uh nice girl. And uh, I mean her dad, her dad starts talking, my mom and sister, or just my mom, um, because obviously we're just rolling in. And then uh we decided to go to the bonfire night that they had in the dorm backyard. Um yeah, everything, everything was fine, but then things just started going crazy. She then started like not sleeping. She started smoking a lot of weed.

SPEAKER_01 32:34

Um well, doesn't that go hand in hand with college life?

SPEAKER_05 32:37

Yeah, you know, it's it's not I'm not bothered by it. I'm just like um the way she was doing it, it was just on top of everything. But she was telling me stories of what was happening over what happened over the summer, and like I think I I I feel like this is like all public news at this point because it's all like um in the police reports. In the police reports, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 33:09

Um but basically Well then didn't she like stay out? Like she didn't even go to classes and she stayed out a lot and then she ended up bringing like dudes back to your Yeah, that was the thing.

SPEAKER_05 33:20

The first night she brought home a guy, and um, because we had gone to a friend's dorm and they had an extra like loft kit, so her bed then got lofted, and she had this whole beanbag set up at the bottom. And but she brought home this guy, and I thought they were she had she she had worded as if they were friends from high school because at my university it seems like everyone knows each other from school because it it's it seems like a very local school for some reason. Okay, just like um they say Iowa is a second Naperville college because everyone from Naperville goes to uh Iowa. Iowa, yeah, yeah. And so um I was like, oh, and then the next morning, because I slept with my wallet in my pepper spray.

SPEAKER_06 34:08

Yeah, it's hilarious, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 34:11

And then the next day she tells me, Oh, I just found him in Sandburg, I don't know who he is, and I was like, um, where's that? What's that? And she was just like, uh I don't know. I I was just around. I was just like, okay, cool. And then this proceeded to I did not say that's cool.

SPEAKER_01 34:37

I don't think she even wants to say that I didn't know what to say because you know, okay, I Did you say did you say, hey, where's mine?

SPEAKER_05 34:47

Because it was just like the thing was is that I had watched so many movies and Lifetime basically they lie, um, so many things of like you don't want to come across as someone that always says no, and you don't want to be the roommate that that is gonna be talked about badly, right? Because they might talk bad about you.

SPEAKER_01 35:14

Snitches is bitches, yeah, right, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 35:17

And the other thing is that um Well, you're also trying to get used to that type of environment in life. So it's like, okay, well, I also don't want this is gonna be for the next seven months or whatever. I don't want it to already start off yeah with the bigger.

SPEAKER_01 35:32

Well, and this is and this was your first experience away from home. I was experienced away from home. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 35:38

First ex first like um like day, and first day.

SPEAKER_01 35:45

Yeah, and literally almost throw you right into the hot uh the hot pot, right? Right.

SPEAKER_05 35:50

Well, and not only that the meth pot. Well, and not only that, is that the question that really bothered me was she asked me, like, do you have any friends? And I said, um no, not really. And she was like, Well, did you meet anybody at the overnight stay? Because we have oh well, the university used to do an overnight stay where you get to meet the people in your actual class, um in your area of the field. The thing is, is that I don't know why I keep doing this to myself, but I seem to meet the people that either don't want to be friends or think life is so competitive that um they can't be around other people. So, or they don't live in the dorm. So, like, great, okay, cool. Hey, look, a homeless guy, let's bring him in. Yeah, basically. But um, yeah, that actually leads to my next point. So the next couple around the next couple that because she only lasted nine days. Um, the next couple days um led to um homeless people being led into the dorm. Um yeah. Yeah, homeless people being led into the dorm.

SPEAKER_03 37:02

Like you mean she led the homeless people in? Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 37:05

Oh, she let them in. Oh my god. Yeah, God. It it was like some friends of hers. Couldn't even tell you. Wow. Yeah. Uh one person wasn't deemed a homeless person, um, was led into the dorm. Um they uh don't need to sign in. They did, and then the one she did how somehow sneak in, because sometimes it is easy if there's a crowd. Okay. Um, the other time was that she never came home because she was out doing drugs with some friends from high school. Um, the other time was that she went to class, didn't like it, and decided that she was gonna talk to the counselor and see if she can take one class and pick and choose which one she wanted to go to. Um and then yeah, and everything seemed to be my fault.

SPEAKER_03 38:04

And then um Oh yeah, didn't she also come out of the shower like ass naked?

SPEAKER_05 38:10

Yeah, that was that happened a couple of times with my other roommates because it was suites, right? So it was two rooms and we shared a shower.

SPEAKER_03 38:20

Right.

SPEAKER_05 38:20

It was lovely dorms, like the dorm I lived in luxury at this year. It was very nice. Um, but the other two got concerned because they it felt unsafe for me at this point, where then we had to start getting the RA involved. And obviously the RA was like, you know, you guys are adults, you need to like um you're like bitch, you don't understand.

SPEAKER_03 38:46

She just let in 18 homeless people with cats, okay? Now there's mice and cats and fleas in our dorm, okay?

SPEAKER_01 38:53

And they got the grocery cards in your dorm.

SPEAKER_03 38:56

Well, stepped on a needle this morning, and now I have to go to the doctor and check for HPV.

SPEAKER_01 39:02

Oh my god, that is nuts.

SPEAKER_05 39:04

Well, the funny thing is is that uh she she did ruin a couple things of mine, and like she stole my charger, she broke my mirror, she she used a lot of my things, so I ended up having to throw away a lot my freshman year. Um and I just felt I just felt I just felt like it was just awful. And then I found out the day in in the end, the day that everything happened, um, it ended up that we talked to the RA, and um she like had a freak out, and they they called it something, and I don't remember it off the top of my head. A freak out, isn't it? She had like a mental break. She had a mental that's what they called it, but it was something else, and apparently they said that she was off her meds or something. Oh, nice. But she but she like sounds like a winner. Yes, surprise, surprise. I didn't see that one coming. But she like pushed me inside so she can go take a shower.

SPEAKER_01 40:08

Um, she took a shower.

SPEAKER_03 40:14

You go laugh at the right now. Well, she didn't say I she took a shit in the park.

SPEAKER_01 40:19

Right. Hey, what why is there a pile of crap in the shower? No. Right next to a hot dog. Right?

SPEAKER_05 40:28

And then so me and my sweet mates took this as the opportunity to um take her out. Basically come up with a plan to like um talk to the RA and see what we could do. And um, you know, then we we all finished and then she got changed, she left again, and then that same night they did the you know, fire like changed roll like fireworks. They checked the fire extinguishers, and we asked uh RA to come back after they did that, and she was off her rocker already that time, and she saw that. What was she doing? She had pushed him and started doing like it's my city, I'm untouchable, and I um blah blah blah. Hold on, let me put this to music.

SPEAKER_04 41:24

If you ask anybody I told this story to, they're they'll be my buddy P. Diddy. Oh no. They literally, those sometimes my friends go to me like, yo, PB, this is my city, right? This is my city.

SPEAKER_01 41:38

I'm like, Hey, it's Milwaukee, you can have it. Yeah. For real.

SPEAKER_03 41:44

And there's plenty of abandoned houses. Right.

SPEAKER_01 41:49

Go down the street. I think there's a Shining Test Class House.

SPEAKER_05 41:52

Did she call it? Yeah, she had okay. Okay. And um, you know, and uh uh the the RA finally was just like, you know, it's yeah, well, I I see now. Yes, I'm gonna go take care of it. And um she apparently ran to another dorm.

SPEAKER_01 42:15

Um so she was on the lamb? She was on the run.

SPEAKER_05 42:20

That was the next day. Oh, geez. So she went to the other door, apparently was she got into the other dorm and was just yelling and blah blah blah. Because she was having a mental breakdown, so everyone thought she was she had did she have clothes on at this point? She did, but they didn't no one knew what was going on with her, so they somebody had called the police, right? And so they tackled her down at the other dorm, right? Yeah, the other dorm. So that was one day. The next day.

SPEAKER_06 42:50

This is the first day of college.

SPEAKER_03 42:52

No, this is like first week though. This was day nine.

SPEAKER_05 42:55

Day nine. So I got a call from the police saying, hey, what's been going on? And I told them everything.

SPEAKER_00 43:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 43:03

And um, you know, I I had to tell them, you know, like there's been all this, blah, blah, blah. She's brought random ass strangers. Yeah, it wasn't that I was trying to get in her in trouble. It was more the fact that, you know, I if you were on my end, like I was scared for my set. I'm not from this area. No, you know, and I've only heard from and what she didn't know is that I was actually gonna transfer. Like, I had put in an application to transfer schools. Yeah, like I was I was ready to press the button. Um, all like I was the only thing it was that the deadline didn't come out yet and how to transfer yet.

SPEAKER_03 43:47

So I had been calling us kind of crying and um yeah, and I had you know, you you had sort of like uh the same type of traumatic experience that be

SPEAKER_01 44:00

He did. Yeah. Yeah. He had something like that. Not not completely, but similar, you know. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. That's nuts.

SPEAKER_03 44:08

No, but the bus is the next day. Yeah. So the next day. Hold on.

SPEAKER_01 44:12

I gotta find some uh effects for this.

SPEAKER_03 44:17

Oh no, that's not funny.

SPEAKER_05 44:22

So the next day, um Jesus. So the next day, um I had gone to a baseball game, and I was getting a bunch of messages from people in the dorm because we were all in an architecture group chat, because that's where I lived. Everyone in my floor was in architecture. So of course everyone remembers Rumi's for this.

SPEAKER_01 44:49

And so um, yeah, so uh at this point, did you build uh put a tick together uh uh a jail a jail uh architecture for a jail to put this girl in?

SPEAKER_05 45:02

No, uh no. But uh I heard that she did have to stay, I believe, in uh uh now how old was she?

unknown 45:13

Do you know?

SPEAKER_06 45:13

When she was my teen, she was my age. She was 18. They're freshman and she's going nuts. She it was because she was off for meds. What kind of meds is she on? Crack balance uh wood stabilizers.

SPEAKER_01 45:26

So she was bipolar or something like that, or I think that's what she sounded like getting diagnosed.

SPEAKER_03 45:31

Yeah, that's what it sounds like she is. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 45:33

And um, so the next day her dad had to, you know, get her, and then she went back to the dorm and you know, she didn't want to go. Um, and the cops came to the dorm and was outside our dorm. Um, and they they were outside the dorm, but they weren't allowed, I believe, inside our room. So she were told to go like in the hallway? Yeah, so they were told to go get her stuff, but she broke again and bolted out of the building and ran to the other dorm on the other side of the bridge because there's a bridge to the two dorms, okay, and she uh the cops weren't there, right? You're right. I had already gone because yeah, I was already gonna be.

SPEAKER_01 46:24

So you were getting a play by play by from somebody else.

SPEAKER_05 46:26

Via Snapchat, via Snatch because somebody was videotaping, and apparently I found out this year that she actually assaulted one of my new friends really because she was trying to get away from the cops, and then um apparently she was trying to get into another dorm because she knew a guy who was in a dorm, and the guy was like, No, I'm not getting involved. And um, you know, she left running again and they have rolling down a hill, funny enough, because they don't um it was based it was by a river, actually, funny enough. And uh yeah, they caught her and then they sent her to like um juvie. Not juvie, it was like a rehab facility for a couple uh for like a full month. Um and then she came back. She actually she came back a month later.

SPEAKER_01 47:25

Really?

SPEAKER_05 47:26

But her stuff stayed in my dorm.

SPEAKER_01 47:29

So did you rummage through it?

SPEAKER_05 47:31

Like I never touched any of her stuff. I thought her parents took her stuff. No, it was actually really uh funny how they got her stuff because I had um it was funny enough, I ended up getting in trouble um with uh housing for um drinking in the dorm, and it was just because we were being really loud and my bad. And uh I you were getting drunk anyways, um I had talked to this lady and I said, you know, I just first want to say I'm sorry about what I'm getting in trouble with, but I'm like, do you know anything that's happening with my dorm by chance?

SPEAKER_03 48:18

Um, because you're in a double and you were and she was gone, so you were now single technically.

SPEAKER_05 48:25

Well, and not to be all rooted out, but her clothes were starting to stink because she had been running all this around the buildings and Febreze can only help so much. Oh my god. And out of respect, I hadn't touched herself, neither did I want to touch herself.

SPEAKER_06 48:45

So how long is this going on? I don't understand why they wouldn't tell you.

SPEAKER_05 48:52

It's because we saw when you're in college, you basically sign your rights away that only yourself yourself is allowed to know what's happened to your records in college. Or if you sign permission, special permission, your parents may know.

SPEAKER_03 49:08

So they didn't know she was coming back or not, basically.

SPEAKER_06 49:11

No, the school knows everything.

SPEAKER_01 49:13

Because if you but why would they have her stuff there?

SPEAKER_03 49:17

Because she wasn't gonna come back, right?

SPEAKER_01 49:18

If she, I mean, even if she was gonna come back a month, didn't the parents say, okay, I gotta get her stuff.

SPEAKER_05 49:25

Because the parents aren't allowed to do any of that without her there. What? Yeah, if she was gone and couldn't get so the last day of I actually think it was almost mom's birthday, the day before, maybe the day after mom's birthday. It's just late September. Yeah, late September. Um, someone just walks in because I locked my door, and funny enough, uh, my other uncle David actually gave me a door stopper because I was so scared of people coming in my door at that point. Um I had had that on there, and um, someone moved it, and I was like, huh? And it was her and it was her dad, and it was her mom.

SPEAKER_01 50:12

And um were they all smoking crack pipes?

SPEAKER_05 50:16

No, but um uh you didn't know they were coming. I didn't know they were coming. No one had given me any notice.

SPEAKER_01 50:23

No heads up, right?

SPEAKER_05 50:25

And um that's not cool. Yeah, and I had told the school, or this is I guess another thing, but yeah, um, the school basically was just like, yeah, we can't tell you anything because it's her stuff, you know. Right. And I was like, I don't want to know anything, I just want to know when her stuff is leaving because it's starting to smell and it's starting to walk by itself, yeah. Basically, but yeah, it was she she showed up and she literally gives me a hug and she's like, Yeah, they're kicking me out of school. Um, it's about time. Yeah, but um from what I was told from people who worked at the school um on the down low was that she's never allowed to live in UWM uh in housing, uh university housing ever again. I will never post that stuff because of that. Yeah, but everyone to this day knows me as that. You know how sad that is for me though?

SPEAKER_03 51:27

That's stupid.

SPEAKER_05 51:28

Yeah, you need to get a grip. The funny thing is that sometimes I'm like, oh, I I'm BB by the way. Um, I've been here since uh fresh one year, and they're like, that sounds really familiar, and I'm like, oh, they're like, um was your roommate that person? And I was like, Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 51:56

No, what you need to do is flip it on its head and reverse it and say, No, she was my roommate. Right.

SPEAKER_01 52:05

Well, yeah, but I mean that's that's I mean, of all you know what would be cool is to have somebody who was like in the generation before me talk about college and what their experiences were. Because your experience is completely just different, different out of the out of this world.

SPEAKER_03 52:24

Well, I think like when I've talked to my grandparents about it and they went to um Bowling Green University, and so they had a very um, I would say uh typical ish of kind of like going away to school, being on a in a dorm, um you know, they didn't have to work necessarily, but they had on-campus jobs. Um but because they were in theater, it was a little bit different.

SPEAKER_00 52:52

Right.

SPEAKER_03 52:52

And so, um, and then you know, my grandmother's senior year, she ended up getting engaged to my grandpa within six months of meet of meeting him. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 53:03

They went to like bar, uh, what is it? Uh no, no. Dance, bar hops, no, whatever they call those.

SPEAKER_03 53:10

Soc hops. Soc hops, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 53:14

And like the fans was there.

unknown 53:18

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_03 53:20

But uh, yeah, so she, I mean, they ended up, I think her the their senior year, or it might have been like the very his freshman year of his um masters, they were married and they ended up um renting like a basement apartment and that was like their first home. So I don't think that's I mean, maybe of that generation that's typical because you get married young and um, you know, but my grandmother worked, I mean, she was a teacher her, you know, whole career.

SPEAKER_01 53:51

And um But when did they go to school? They went to school during the 40s, right? Or 50s. No, no, it was the 50s.

SPEAKER_03 53:57

It would have been the 50s.

SPEAKER_01 53:58

Yeah, it would have been the 50s, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 53:59

Right. He was he was born at 34.

SPEAKER_01 54:02

Yeah, he's that's my dad, right?

SPEAKER_03 54:04

Turning 89 in July.

SPEAKER_01 54:06

Oh, is he really?

SPEAKER_03 54:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 54:07

Uh dad's 90. Yeah, he turned, he would have been 90 in 1990.

SPEAKER_03 54:11

Yeah, so they're all the same age, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 54:13

So wow.

SPEAKER_03 54:15

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 54:16

Wow, that's well, BB, thanks for coming.

SPEAKER_03 54:19

Yeah, thanks, baby. Although we didn't hit on like her partying and then we're gonna be able to do it. Right, right.

SPEAKER_01 54:24

That'll have to be, you know, because we have to talk generational.

SPEAKER_03 54:27

Getting snuck into like, you know, the bars when you're underage. Right, right. Uh having a fake ID.

SPEAKER_01 54:35

Did you ever have a fake ID?

SPEAKER_03 54:37

Yes. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_01 54:40

There's no parental people here. Come on.

SPEAKER_03 54:42

No, I know. Yeah. The internet does save everything.

SPEAKER_01 54:47

That's true. When it is. I did. I had one. Yes, you did. See, I didn't need one because at that at that time, I mean, I used to go to like the Wisconsin able to drink in Wisconsin. So I mean, yeah, but who wants to go to Wisconsin? It was fun. Um, and then you know, and and I told you the first time I drank, I was like 12 years old anyway.

SPEAKER_00 55:09

So yeah. Well, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 55:11

Dad gave me a shot of whiskey when it was raining that was drunk out of my mind for my one shot. One shot. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 55:18

I was 12 years old. I mean, when we had sores, I took two shots of whiskey last night.

SPEAKER_01 55:22

Oh, you did?

SPEAKER_03 55:23

Yeah, you gave me the other half of it. I know. Well, okay, so a shot and a half, I can give the other half of the week.

SPEAKER_01 55:30

All right, boys and girls. Well, that's it for this week. Uh Jen is uh she went fast.

SPEAKER_05 55:35

We did.

SPEAKER_01 55:36

Maybe you're gonna have to join us again.

SPEAKER_05 55:37

Heck yeah.

SPEAKER_01 55:38

Maybe when uh Joe is here.

SPEAKER_05 55:39

Uh that'd be funny.

SPEAKER_01 55:41

Yeah, that would be funny, Joe. Yeah, the two Gen Z millennial and a boomer.

SPEAKER_03 55:45

Yeah, because I would say, BB, you're definitely more of a typical Gen Zier. I mean, you're she does the TikTok, she's in college.

SPEAKER_01 55:52

Yeah, you're you know what?

SPEAKER_03 55:53

Maybe next time is not typical, really.

SPEAKER_01 55:55

Yeah, we'll have to talk next time you and Joey talk about um your social media habits because they're completely different.

SPEAKER_03 56:03

They are, yeah, they really are. All right, well, that's it's changing that all.

SPEAKER_01 56:09

Oh, you know what? I got kicked out of Facebook, but somebody hacked my account. So then I gotta start a whole new one.

SPEAKER_03 56:13

The fact that he has a Facebook is what's concerning. Rumors.

SPEAKER_04 56:18

Hey, my mom's active on Facebook. Sure she is.

SPEAKER_03 56:22

Well, thank you everyone for listening. This is Jen is Us Podcast. Thank you, Bibi, for coming on. And we'll see you next time, listeners. Bye.

SPEAKER_02 56:43

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